Thursday, May 1, 2008
Words in a bottle
I'm thinking right now..Do words really matter? Do they really carry as much weight as we suppose they do? I know that actions speak louder than words and words can, at times, be strong enough to cause damage. But how strong can they be when you throw out good advice and people do not listen? What happens when you show love through words and nothing comes from it? I pose this question because I am quite disappointed with some news I just received. I am not a parent and won't be one for quite some time but I'm just baffled at how difficult it would be to rear a child. Just through my own experience growing up, I understand that most parents try and steer their children in the "right" direction. You know...the get-your-education-steer-away-from-drugs-and-jail pathway that is pretty generic. For girls you can probably throw in -not-become-pregnant as well. But how do you control your kids from going down the wrong path? How do you try to be there for them financially and lovingly when you're not there 24 hours a day to watch their every move just in case the minute you turn around, they decide to steal something and get handcuffed and taken to jail? How? I really do not know. Some say you gotta show them you love them and that you care for them. Well, what if you do and your kid still decides to one up you and make stupid decisions? You can try all you want to "talk to your kids about drugs". They still just might get hammered and get into the driver's seat and drive their car into a wall. You can always give sound advice with heavy words but the recipient must be able to receive those words. I guess you can't control any of this. People make their own decisions and as a parent, you also have to live with those decisions if there are grave consequences. I'm scared to death to have my own children because I'm afraid of the type of person I would become.
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Wow, cuz, that's deep... well, as a son and a parent i can tell u this: i know i did things that i'm not proud of not because mom failed but because i made a descision when there was no one to council me on the proper descision. mom and dad couldnt always be around when life throws a pitch at u, so u make a descision. swing and strike, swing and hit a homer, don't swing and it's a ball, don't swing and it's a stike? right or wrong, a descision needs to be made at that moment in time. we all make good ones and bad ones, BUT the quality of our descision is never determined until AFTER we make it. so as a son, i believe that no matter how much love and nurturing u can give, ultimately, as a son/daughter, we will make our own descisions. we can only pray it's the right one.
NOW.... as a parent. one thing about parenting that's not well know is this: WORRY. we worry if we made the right choices for our kids, we worry if our kids are accepted by their peers. we worry if they are safe, we worry that we didn't screw up their lives... being a parent mean u worry about EVERYTHING. and no matter if our kids are successful or not, we always think that we could have done better. we want our kids to be better than what we are.
Gosh, Naj, i could go on and on, and i will when u come out. im really looking forward to it! just know the world isn't as bad as u think! Famalosi,cuzzz.. Me and Gus got ur back! promise.
drew
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